This is a list shared by a nurse in charge of palliative care on the most common regrets terminally ill patients shared at their death bed – found it quite profound and something that could be easily addressed if we wished to.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. (This was the most common regret of all.)
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. (This came from every male patient who was nursed.) They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. (Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.)
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. (Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down.)
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. (This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.)
The original deeds for quick benefits and subsequent regrets are result of injected alien thought processes … that excellence lies in doing bad things for profit and find nirvana in later life by following a guru and its newly copied, re-written and translated mantras from our own old epics or religious texts – of which we never cared to learn and practice even the basics..